A lot of people ask if we want to adopt more than one, and so the long and short of it is - yes! absolutely!
I am lucky enough to have sisters. One biologically, and one through my mother's second marriage. I am also lucky enough to have amazing relationships with both of these women, although I will be the first to admit (closely followed by my sister Mayghan) that being an only child was something that I dreamed of growing up and when I discovered I had friends who were only children. "What do you mean you don't have to share your clothes?! Ugh. You are SO lucky."
Growing up, Jon was happy to be the only child. He got all the attention, got spoiled by his grandparents, didn't have to fight anybody. He says it was nice. (Can you tell he's a man of few words?)
So when it comes to our children, Jon and I bring two different viewpoints to the table. We both agree however, that we want to adopt more than one child. And whenever this conversation happens, I wonder who we will have as our second child. Will we adopt the way we are now (domestic infant adoption)? Or will we go overseas? Or will we foster to adopt? Will we have an older child? I just don't know. I do know that I hope, wish, and pray that they are as close with each other as I am with my siblings.
I also hope that I don't have to defend to people that they are "real siblings". This has been a topic of many articles that I have read recently - and those women handled the situation so much better than I would - but that's a topic for another post.
This probably seems waaaaaay too early to be thinking about this sort of thing, especially since we haven't been placed with one yet. But I've been reading a collection of blogs that host a link up every two weeks, and this is the most recent topic - so it's been on my brain. I'm actually really far behind on those blogs - so this is a really late post. But if you have some time, you should hop on over and check out their much-more-active-than-mine blogs:
http://www.nobohnsaboutit.com/
http://starfishconfidential.com/
http://joyfuljourneymom.com/
http://rippedjeansandbifocals.com/
http://www.ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog.html
http://www.adoptionmamablog.com/
I wonder if someday my children will read this blog and say "Welp, we never had a chance of being only children." Sorry kids.
All My Love,
Nikisha
I am lucky enough to have sisters. One biologically, and one through my mother's second marriage. I am also lucky enough to have amazing relationships with both of these women, although I will be the first to admit (closely followed by my sister Mayghan) that being an only child was something that I dreamed of growing up and when I discovered I had friends who were only children. "What do you mean you don't have to share your clothes?! Ugh. You are SO lucky."
Growing up, Jon was happy to be the only child. He got all the attention, got spoiled by his grandparents, didn't have to fight anybody. He says it was nice. (Can you tell he's a man of few words?)
So when it comes to our children, Jon and I bring two different viewpoints to the table. We both agree however, that we want to adopt more than one child. And whenever this conversation happens, I wonder who we will have as our second child. Will we adopt the way we are now (domestic infant adoption)? Or will we go overseas? Or will we foster to adopt? Will we have an older child? I just don't know. I do know that I hope, wish, and pray that they are as close with each other as I am with my siblings.
I also hope that I don't have to defend to people that they are "real siblings". This has been a topic of many articles that I have read recently - and those women handled the situation so much better than I would - but that's a topic for another post.
This probably seems waaaaaay too early to be thinking about this sort of thing, especially since we haven't been placed with one yet. But I've been reading a collection of blogs that host a link up every two weeks, and this is the most recent topic - so it's been on my brain. I'm actually really far behind on those blogs - so this is a really late post. But if you have some time, you should hop on over and check out their much-more-active-than-mine blogs:
http://www.nobohnsaboutit.com/
http://starfishconfidential.com/
http://joyfuljourneymom.com/
http://rippedjeansandbifocals.com/
http://www.ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog.html
http://www.adoptionmamablog.com/
I wonder if someday my children will read this blog and say "Welp, we never had a chance of being only children." Sorry kids.
All My Love,
Nikisha
